Two things happened in these threads: either guys said they generally love giving oral, or they said they didn’t like it and got criticized for that opinion. Let’s be clear, okay? It’s okay for a guy not to enjoy giving oral sex, just like it’s okay for a woman not to enjoy giving it. The only time it’s not okay for a guy to refuse to go down on you is if he’s basically making you go down on him. That said, I’m sure many of you are curious about what, exactly, guys don’t like about giving oral sex. Maybe the information will help both of you have more enjoyable experiences, and honestly, who an argue with that?
Getting to the heart of the matter with oral sex is complex, because there's more than just physical sensations in play — there's also a complicated power dynamic at work. Sometimes, the person on the receiving end of oral sex is being pleasured, but also feels very vulnerable; meanwhile the giver, though performing an act that usually won't provide them with any direct physical pleasure, holds almost of the power in the situation. For some people (even those who don’t particularly care for the act itself), it’s that power imbalance inherent in oral sex that gets them off ― further proof that sex is not just physical, but also about our emotional impressions and sensations. But other times, that power dynamic is reversed — especially when women feel obligated to perform oral sex on their partners, even though they're not actually that interested.